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Saturday, October 31, 2015

Day 890: I Don't Want to Face the World

We all have our moments where we feel like we just want to crawl into a cave and never come out again. How can you support yourself within this kind of experience?

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Friday, October 30, 2015

Day 889: Conflict!

Conflict goes where energy goes, it does not exist without energy to fuel it. We live so much of our lives in conflict, within ourselves and with the people and things around us. If we take the time and make the effort to develop ourselves in such a way that we can effectively direct our energy-generating thoughts then we can stop conflict. Wouldn't the world be a better place without conflict?

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Thursday, October 29, 2015

Day 888: The Question of Creation

This post follows up on my previous post - you will need to read it for context.

We have established that we are the creators of our life experiences and the world around us - but how do we ensure that we are actually creating what we intend to? It is so seldom that we can see every single ripple that is created from one action, we do not always see all the information that may be relevant in any given scenario and furthermore, we are in a sense working against our own minds that do not always have the same intentions we have.

So this is an example of how intentions mean nothing - action is what counts. We may intend to create one thing, but because we do not yet effectively see or understand our creation or how to manifest it, our actions and words may have unintended consequences.

Part of developing your deliberate awareness includes investigating and checking the actual effects of your words and actions - if you are at any point assuming or believing that everything you're doing is having the exact effect you want without consequence then you need to pause for a moment and ground yourself again. There is no room for allowing the belief that you are infallible in your standing. Having the intention to live specific principles or intentions does not automatically make you immune to making mistakes, misunderstanding/misinterpreting information or effecting other beings' lives in a way that you didn't intend.

It takes time to develop the skills and awareness required to see the full effects of your creation. Getting there requires that you are both humble and unremitting in your assessing of yourself and your actual creation. Always accept the possibility that you are wrong - it is so easy to fall into the trap of righteousness. What is righteousness? It is when you believe that you are right and are unwilling to consider otherwise - this can have the consequences of making choices and acting on them without having all the relevant information - and often when righteousness is involved, so is a (usually powerful) emotional experience. Living any kind of action while in emotional reaction will almost guarantee unintended consequences. When you are in reaction you miss things, you misunderstand, you rush, you judge, you act harshly, you do not consider all paths and factors involved.

Solution? Question everything you think, speak and do. Make no assumptions. The moment you feel strongly about any one thing, STOP and investigate - it may very well be an opinion you are holding onto. Do not fear being wrong - there is nothing wrong with being wrong - it will not diminish who you are. Mistakes are a part of life - accept that they will happen and make sure you learn from them when they do. Develop effective ways of assessing your creation - create a system where you can receive feedback in order to check that it is creating as you planned.

Make sure you know exactly what you are actually creating, not what you want to be creating.

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Day 887: Deliberate Awareness

This is an excerpt from a discussion I had recently, I am including only my words in such a way that it makes sense to you.

Have you ever had a moment where you KNOW that there is a pattern that you are living, yet your awareness of the pattern is limited in terms of you not being aware of when it activates in your day to day life? It feels like it's so much a part of you that you don't know how to stop it? You tend to only see after the damage is done.

Usually it gets to a point where your accumulated consequences are so severe that you know that you must face and direct the point (pattern/design/part of you) or risk destroying yourself, whether now or in the future. So the question is: how do you change a part of you that seems so ingrained that you can't see a way out?

There is a word that comes up when I look at this point: Deliberate - as in being deliberately aware in every moment. There are simply very few people who walk with the absolute awareness so that they catch their patterns as they activate. The key is awareness - if you are not aware of who you are and what you are creating in that moment, you will feel like you have no control.

Every single thing we do has an effect, it ripples out, so we must consider: where are we allowing ourselves to slip in being HERE, in being aware of EXACTLY what we are creating? Because that is exactly what we are doing with our ripples - we are CREATING.

as you have / will see in Desteni I Process - we are all always creating our selves, our life experiences, and the effects we see around us. Everything we do has the effect of creation.

What am I creating?
How will these words shape my creation?
How will this action shape my creation?
How will this thought shape the creation of who I am?
What are the consequences of what I am creating?

This is the DELIBERATE awareness of creation that is required - and deliberate means that we will walk a process of checking ourselves, asking ourselves those questions of creation. We are dealing with the Law of Creation - and that law is that everything has an effect - just like in the Matrix: action - reaction, Cause - effect.

How do we use this understanding of creation to change these patterns we get stuck on? These patterns tend to show themselves more in our living application, rather than in our conscious thoughts, so there are not necessarily thoughts that you can flag for yourself.

BUT - you can flag living application.

You can check your awareness - AM I HERE?  And as always it is important not to become lost in the experience,not to get caught up in the beliefs and self definitions that come hand in hand with the experience. We must be able to take a step back and look at the pattern for what it is and not define ourselves within and as it.

Deliberate awareness requires deliberate action and deliberate action requires discipline. This brings us to a question: what is discipline?

When you are facing a moment of choice in real time - what defines discipline? What does degree of difficulty have to do with making a choice? Does the fact that making or not making a choice was difficult justify you choosing to avoid discipline? We so easily will justify ourselves by saying that something is difficult - yes, we will face some seriously tough stuff and yes, we will make mistakes and fall - but to justify ourselves means that we are avoiding taking responsibility.

If we make a mistake or fall, we must see our creation and responsibility within that moment - there is no space for justification in that - it is simply "I see how I created this outcome and I commit to learn from it", no self judgement, no emotion - you are simply seeing your creation.

How was I so unaware?
How did I miss so many moments of seeing my creation?
Why am I only seeing my creation now that it is done and I cannot change it?

These are experiences none of us want to face again. There is a solution - and yes, it will have many difficult moments and yes, each of us may fall many times BUT - keep the focus on solutions, keep it on your breathe HERE and being deliberate in every thought, action, word.

The most common point that people fall in is the point of getting lost in an experience. When the experience is the tornado and you are whirling around in there with all the thoughts and emotions - there is no way you're going to be able to see anything with clarity. When we are lost in an experience we must STOP, take a step back and stand in the eye of the storm, in the center where all is calm. Move from a point of stability, deliberateness.

Seeing the pattern for what it is, and not seeing it from within your experience in it, not defining yourself within the experience, but seeing and realising that the experience is part of a pattern, a design that is not WHO YOU ARE - it is simply a program that you lost yourself in for a moment. We are the tornados simply because we accept and allow ourselves to be.

We are breathing life into our creation - we better make sure that we are creating what is best for all

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Day 886: Student Loan is Like Making a Deal with the Devil

http://www.blacklistednews.com/Obama_Administration_Urges_No_Bankruptcy_Relief_for_Student_Debt/46823/0/38/38/Y/M.html

The Obama administration moved to block a bankruptcy court from erasing federal student loan debt, saying such an allowance would jeopardize the fiscal stability of the loan program.
U.S. Department of Education attorneys, intervening in the case of a 65-year-old man seeking to erase his student loans in bankruptcy, filed a motion urging the court to stand firm with borrowers who claim they are in a dire financial situation. Attorneys argued that Robert Murphy of Massachusetts, unemployed and of retirement age, has plenty of chances to go back to work or hit the jackpot.
No student debtors should get a break unless there is a "certainty of hopelessness" with circumstances that have a "total incapacity" to change, court documents said said.
"An individual's economic circumstances may change over time," attorneys said. "Improvements in the national economy may offer new employment prospects, changes in family circumstances may reduce the number of the debtor's dependents, a spouse may enter or reenter the workforce, or the debtor may benefit from an inheritance or other windfall."

So it seems like taking out a student loan in USA is equivalent to signing your soul away to the Devil himself - there is no way out of the contract except for death or paying in full.

It doesn't help that a tertiary education is essentially worthless - but hey, at least you'll have your degree and you can show everyone your framed certificate proving that you're super smart. Right?

Let's look at this whole loan thing for a moment: The US department of Education claims that by allowing debts to be wiped you risk the collapse of the loan program. Now I don't have all the facts and figures in front of me, though I don't see how that is really the issue. What we should actually be questioning is the design of this system at the core - why is anyone at all in the position of firstly, having to pay for their education at all (an effective education essentially being the creation of opportunity for a person by empowering them to develop themselves in a particular skill that will benefit society as a whole (well that's what it's supposed to be used for)) thereby excluding those who are unable to pay or secure a loan. Secondly, the reality that once you have sold your soul to the devil you are very unlikely to find a job that will allow you to pay him back is completely backwards. What does that say about our priorities? Sure, you can have an education, but you'll be paying for it for the rest of your life because there's no way you're going to be able to get a job that will provide you with a comfortable life, free of debt? Something is seriously wrong there.

Young adults should be supported to fulfill their potential, not smushed into a gooey paste upon entering adulthood. There is nothing sustainable about the way we live - and this can be reflected into how the mind functions as well: The mind relies on the generation of positive and negative energies to fuel itself, but that energy has consequences on who you are and on the state of your body. It manifests as inner demons taking over who you could have been and as physical ills and illnesses debilitating your body. The backbone of our society - the system around which it functions - is well and truly broken. There is no way that it can sustain itself as well as create a life in which every single living being is taken care of - and when you look at it, that's all that really important: creating a life that is best for all and supports every living being to reach their utmost potential.

Monday, October 26, 2015

Day 885: What Does Hope Have to do With it?

We have instilled the experience of hope into many aspects of our lives and it mostly has to do with the desire for better - better weather, better luck, better opportunities etc. Nothing we feel within us is going to change how things happen, unless we are in some way enforcing our will on the outcome (whether deliberately or unawares). Why have we made hope to be something that we feel like we cannot live without, as if, without hope we are incapable of facing tomorrow?

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Sunday, October 25, 2015

Day 884: I Feel Out of Control

We often feel out of control, overwhelmed with our experiences and sometimes addictions. How do our minds essentially trick us into feeling this way?

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Saturday, October 24, 2015

Day 883: Procrastination: Just Do It

What is going on behind your experience of procrastination? What thoughts can you look out for? How can you support yourself to move through the experience?

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Day 882: Desteni Movie Hangout: Tomorrowland

What insights can Tomorrowland give us into our society? How can we use some of these insights to change the way we live so that we can create a world that is best for all life?

This is the quote from the movie that is discussed during part of the hangout:

“Let’s imagine… if you’d glimpse the future, you are frightened by what you saw, what would you do with that information? You’d go to who? Politicians? Captains of industry? And how would you convince them? With data? With Facts? Good luck. The only facts they won’t challenge are the ones that keep the wheels greased and the dollars rolling in. But what if there was a way of skipping the middle man and putting the critical news directly into everyone’s head? The probability of wide-spread annihilation kept going up. The only way to stop it, was to show it. To scare people straight, because what reasonable human being wouldn’t be galvanized by the potential destruction of everything they’ve ever known or loved? To save civilization, I would show its collapse.

But how do you think this vision was received? How do you think people responded to the prospect of imminent doom? They gobbled it up like a chocolate ├ęclair. They didn’t fear their demise, they repackaged it. It could be enjoyed as video-games as TV-shows, books, movies, the entire world whole-heartedly embraced the apocalypse and sprinted towards it with gleeful abandon.

Meanwhile, your Earth was crumbling all around you. You’ve got simultaneous epidemics of obesity and starvation – explain that one. Bees and butterflies start to disappear the glaciers melt, algae blooms all around you, the coalmine canaries are dropping dead and you won’t take the hint.

In every moment, there is the possibility of a better future, but you people won’t believe it. And because you won’t believe it, you won’t do what is necessary to make it a reality. So, you dwell on this so terrible future, you resign yourselves to it for one reason: Because that future doesn’t ask anything of you today.

So, yes, we saw the iceberg, we warned the Titanic, but you all just steered for it anyway, full steam ahead. Why? Because you want to sink. You gave up. And that’s not the monitor’s fault – that’s yours.”

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Day 881: The Cascade Effect

There is an interesting phenomenon that takes place in human interactions. If one person reacts emotionally, their reaction will likely trigger a cascade effect of reactions within the people around them. If you're speaking with someone and they are emotional, you will very probably start feeling more emotional as you continue communicating with them. This is not something that cannot be helped - all it requires to transcend the cascade effect is to bring yourself back into yourself, back into your point of stability.

What happens in these scenarios is a sort of a energy game. The mind of one person activates within and as emotional reactions. The minds of the people with that person will then gravitate towards activating emotional reactions as well, usually reactions that are in one way or another relevant to the initial reaction. Let's say the initial reaction is self pity, the likely reaction that this will trigger in other minds is aggression and blame, as a sort of attempt to balance the scales. Consider that the mind is always working toward a point of balance, however the starting point that exists is not one that supports life , which is why things get so horribly distorted and messed up. So in an attempt to create balance, our minds will manifest opposites. That's why there is no positive without negative when the mind is involved.

This is why you will sometimes talk to someone who seems perfectly reasonable, but for some reason you refuse to agree with anything they say and may even be quite nasty in what you think or say about/to them. At the time it may not seem to make much sense, but when you look back after the fact you will see the tell-tale signs that that person was in some kind of emotional experience and you were reacting to that on a subconscious/unconscious level.

Sometimes you feel like you just don't want to be around someone. Check for if they are in an emotional experience. Sometimes when you're emotional then you want to be around certain people - check why this is - maybe the people you are wanting to be around validate your experience in some way. Obviously these things will not always be the case - but they will be some of the time and it's up to you to investigate yourself.

If you find yourself reacting or responding in some way to the emotional state of others, make sure that you take responsibility for YOUR reactions. We tend to want to blame the emotional person for our reactions to them when in reality what is happening is that they are showing us what exists within us. They are giving us the opportunity to face ourselves, and if we start to blame them then we will not look inward and take the opportunity. Blame is always an indicator that there is a point within YOU that you need to take responsibility for.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Day 880: Fact or Interpretation

We each see the world differently, according to our personal and unique experiences in life. We seldom see things as they are, but will instead see things as we are, through the interpretation and meaning that our mind gives. This can make communication quite tricky - because you now have what actually happened, what one person perceived to have happened and what the other person perceived to have happened. It's up to you to let go of what you define as the 'facts' and take into consideration the reality for the person you are communicating with - see what they see, so that you may more effectively support them to consider other possible perspectives.

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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Day 879: No Water, No Life

Every living thing on this planet needs water in order to survive, whether directly or indirectly. Many beings have adapted to incredibly dry environments, however I doubt there is any thing that can survive without water indefinitely (even if that means its food source was what usually provided the water). Rain is what fills up rivers and dams, only in a few areas does water come out of the earth. Most living things are entirely dependent on the weather, so if it rains there is life, and if it doesn't there will be death.

We are seeing a lot of extreme weather these days. If there isn't a drought then it's exceedingly hot or cold, or there is too much rain, or when the rain comes it comes hard and fast so that it washes away whatever isn't securely attached to the ground (and often in these cases the ground itself washes away). I have not spoken to one person in recent years who remarked about the normalcy of the weather. There is no more normal. Because the weather is such a huge and intricate system, we feel incredibly small and insignificant when staring it in the face (if the weather had a face, what would it look like?). We feel like we have no influence over the weather, we ask how we could possibly do anything about it.

On the one hand, yes, we as humanity made some choices that have caused the consequences that we are facing now and the consequences that we will still face. Yes, nothing happened over night, it was a long and consistent application of similar actions that led to these results we are facing now. Having said that, we tend to get lost in the enormity of it all, we get stuck in problem mode, and when you're in problem mode it gets pretty damn hard to see the solutions that are available to you.

We are absolutely dependent on the weather - therefore it is crucial that we do everything we are able to in order to stabilise the weather again. Do I know exactly how we could do this? No, not at this moment. However, I realise that I am responsible for who I am in relation to the weather. I will either stand one and equal with the weather, which requires as well that I take responsibility for how we got to this point as well as focusing on developing solutions. Who I am in relation to the weather requires also that my perception is clear and that I am stable within myself. When I look at the weather as a system with which I stand one and equal I cannot allow myself to be stuck in the frame of mind that focuses on everything that's wrong, or everything that could possibly go wrong. Yes, I must consider potential futures, but the moment I allow emotion to move within me then I am opening the door for a shift in perception, where I may no longer be seeing the weather clearly for who and what it is, as I will be seeing it through the tainted vision of emotion.

Who I am affects what I do, how I live. If I allow myself to exist within and as emotions, those emotions will permeate in everything I think, say and do. If I am facing a problem and I am allowing emotions within me, those emotions will be a part of who I am within the point of facing the problem. Who I am is determined by the thoughts I allow within my mind, those are the thoughts that generate the emotional experiences that influence how I see and interpret information. If who I am is thoughts that are generating fear, then my interpretation and assessment of information will be tainted by that fear in some way.

My point is this: if we are facing the issues we have essentially created while we are reacting emotionally, even if the reactions are subtle, we will not be effective in how we assess the problems or develop the solutions. We are facing some pretty big issues - and right now most of us are simply frozen in terror. It's time to recognise how our emotional responses are influencing our ability to solve those problems.

Monday, October 19, 2015

Day 878: Wake Up, Work, Sleep, Rinse & Repeat

Wake up. Go to work. Go to sleep. Rinse & Repeat.

This is about the best that most people can hope for, at least the way the system is now. We live to survive and survive to live. Is this what you want? Probably not. It is what we've got - but it doesn't have to be this way.

Think of the world as being a reflection of humanity - not nature and plants - but the system that we participate in daily that forms a part of our lives, collectively and individually. This system was and is being created by us ('us' as in humanity) - no one in their "right mind" (what, as opposed to wrong mind, or left mind?) would claim that this system was put here by some third party, it exists and functions simply because it was made by those who went before us and is perpetuated by us here and now.

You may wonder what it means that the system is a reflection of who we are as humanity. In everything we create or develop, we are expressing a part of ourselves, like imprinting who we are into a physical creation. In the products we create we reflect our desires, thoughts, projections, hopes, goals and even fears. Consider, for example, the toy industry - a toy will be designed, produced and sold based on a number of factors: what the designer thinks children will like, the goals of the producer/creators (eg. make a low cost toy that may not last but will potentially make lots of short term sales), the skills and resources available and so on and so forth. Within the process of making toys there must be employees (or robots - even this reflects the priorities of humanity) who will have particular working conditions that may or may not be inspected regularly by a regulatory body (the fact that we need regulatory bodies in different industries to ensure that working conditions and/or are safe is also an indicator of who we are as a society), then there will be the consumers (come on, we even call ourselves consumers) who will either buy or not buy the product (what we support with our money is what we value - or what we need to survive).

Consider how many scandals have made the rounds concerning big name brands that almost everyone in the world are familiar with. Something is uncovered and the guilty corporation will claim ignorance (guilty corporation = guilty and responsible human beings) of the atrocities and will "correct the issues" as well as initiate a re-branding campaign (a series of advertisements designed specifically to emotionally manipulate the consumers into buying the guilty corporation's products again) and after a few months the entire debacle is forgotten.

Even after the scandal, people continue to support (buy the products of) the guilty corporation. What does that tell you about who we are as a people? How about this: things like dangerous working conditions, slave labour, child labour, chemical spills, abuse, etc etc don't happen behind locked doors where there is only the victim and the perpetrator - there are always opportunities for other people to witness what happens. We are all witnessing some pretty horrific things, yet the best response we seem to be able to must up is *gasp*. We are all silently witnessing the destruction of the planet, the abuse and genocide of animals, the exploitation of the weak and the neglect of the powerless.

Sunday, October 18, 2015

Day 877: Food Waste: The Epitome of Human Ignorance

Did you know that roughly one third (1.3 billion tonnes) of the food produced every year is wasted or lost?

Here are some facts from the United Nations Environment Program site:

The impact of food waste is not just financial. Environmentally, food waste leads to wasteful use of chemicals such as fertilizers and pesticides; more fuel used for transportation; and more rotting food, creating more methane – one of the most harmful greenhouse gases that contributes to climate change. Methane is 23 times more potent than CO2 as a greenhouse gas. The vast amount of food going to landfills makes a significant contribution to global warming. 

  • Roughly one third of the food produced in the world for human consumption every year — approximately 1.3 billion tonnes — gets lost or wasted.
  • Every year, consumers in rich countries waste almost as much food (222 million tonnes) as the entire net food production of sub-Saharan Africa (230 million tonnes).
  • The amount of food lost or wasted every year is equivalent to more than half of the world's annual cereals crop (2.3 billion tonnes in 2009/2010).
  • Food loss and waste also amount to a major squandering of resources, including water, land, energy, labour and capital and needlessly produce greenhouse gas emissions, contributing to global warming and climate change.
  • In developing countries food waste and losses occur mainly at early stages of the food value chain and can be traced back to financial, managerial and technical constraints in harvesting techniques as well as storage –and cooling facilities. Thus, a strengthening of the supply chain through the support farmers and investments in infrastructure, transportation, as well as in an expansion of the food –and packaging industry could help to reduce the amount of food loss and waste. 
  • In medium- and high-income countries food is wasted and lost mainly at later stages in the supply chain. Differing from the situation in developing countries, the behavior of consumers plays a huge part in industrialized countries. Moreover, the study identified a lacking coordination between actors in the supply chain as a contributing factor. Farmer-buyer agreements can be helpful to increase the level of coordination. Additionally, raising awareness among industries, retailers and consumers as well as finding beneficial use for save food that is presently thrown away are useful measures to decrease the amount of losses and waste. 
  • In the United States 30% of all food, worth US$48.3 billion (€32.5 billion), is thrown away each year. It is estimated that about half of the water used to produce this food also goes to waste, since agriculture is the largest human use of water. (Jones, 2004 cited in Lundqvist et al., 2008)
  • United Kingdom households waste an estimated 6.7 million tonnes of food every year, around one third of the 21.7 million tonnes purchased. This means that approximately 32% of all food purchased per year is not eaten. Most of this (5.9 million tonnes or 88%) is currently collected by local authorities. Most of the food waste (4.1 million tonnes or 61%) is avoidable and could have been eaten had it been better managed (WRAP, 2008; Knight and Davis, 2007).
  • In the USA, organic waste is the second highest component of landfills, which are the largest source of methane emissions.
I am sure that you will agree that this is a complete and total f**k-up. The fact that there are billions living in absolute poverty or on the breadline while so much food is wasted is, simply put, an indication of exactly how far removed we as humanity are from each other. Is it that we don't care about each other? Yes and no. When faced with suffering most people will feel immense empathy, yet often it is only when we can actually witness the suffering first hand that we will feel anything. The rest of the time, other people outside of our personal bubble of relationships are simply not included in our awareness. We don't think of all of the people who are sleeping in the cold, or living with a constant, gnawing hunger, or having to face an abusive person every day of their lives.

There are a number of solutions that could be implemented for the issue of food wastage and loss, some of which can be seen here: One-Third of Food Is Lost or Wasted: What Can Be Done

As for the issue of developing our awareness, part of our limited spheres of focus in life can be attributed to the act of trying to survive - all of our focus is placed on doing what it takes to survive and having a few personal sources of enjoyment. Another contributory aspect is that our societies have become very much focused on individualism rather than collectivism. I don't mean collectivism as in the commonly misinterpreted and ill-defined term of communism, but rather the understanding that we are all interdependent and interconnected, rather than independent and separated. Our mindsets are developed to only think about our personal lives and loved ones, and in order to change this we essentially need to change the way we think. There is a lot of material available on the internet that share different world views and potential solutions, as well as many sources exposing the flawed way of thinking AND system that we live in. 

We are each responsible for ourselves - absolutely - yet we are also responsible for each other. The only way that we can make this world a better place for all life is if we all stand together within the living of sustainable and holistic solutions that will benefit the many.

Saturday, October 17, 2015

Day 876: Don't get Lost in Your Memories

Sometimes we get a little lost in the idea that the answer to all of our inner questions lie in our pasts - however often the answers to how we can change ourselves are less concerned with the past and more concerned with who we are in this moment here and now - and how we can change.

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Friday, October 16, 2015

Day 875: How Your Choices Ripple Out

In order for us to create a better society, we must change the way we make choices. In order to create communities and an atmosphere of interdependence and harmony we must begin to consider how our choices affect those around us. Living according to only our personal preferences and desires is what has got us to this point here and now - in order to change it we will need to live differently.

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Thursday, October 15, 2015

Day 874: I Can't Help it!

Have you ever used the words "I can't help it"? Most people have.

There is a very particular design attached to these words, and that is the abdication of self responsibility. Have a look at your memories of the moments in which you used those words. You were probably trying to prove/show to someone how you were not actually in control of something at all and that you are entirely justified in your righteous fury. And that's an interesting part of the design: you will create the experience/belief of righteousness within you that, in a way, fuels your belief that you are absolutely not responsible for whatever just happened.

Usually there was actually a way that you could have prevented the entire experience that fits the basic description above simply be planing ahead, doing something you know you should have done or taking a few moments to consider alternate possible futures to the one you initially envision. (On a side note, the vision you usually will envision is probably going to be your best case scenario, or sometimes your worst case scenario) Many people are rather terrible at considering different potential futures. We tend to imagine a specific future and go into a sort of 'tunnel vision' where no other possibility even enters our minds.

Sometimes you did do everything to prepare as best as you were able, yet still experienced an outcome that you responded to with a "I can't help it...". Obviously not everyone will immediately be able to calculate all future possibilities and take every single relevant fact or possibility into their consideration, but that doesn't meant that you can't learn from "failures". Responding to an undesirable outcome by abdicating your responsibility within the point also abdicates your ability to learn from the event effectively, because you are not seeing the event clearly in terms of what actually happened, but rather you are seeing through the veil of your inner experiences of righteousness and blame. You will be interpreting the event in such a way that you will be assigning blame to circumstances or people around you, rather than seeing clearly exactly where and how you participated in creating the outcome, as well as where you potentially may have avoided it.

So, if you ever see yourself using the term "I can't help it..." or "I can't help that I ..." or "I can't help that..." - stop right there! Do not pass go! You know exactly where this road will lead, you know exactly how the future will unfold, you know exactly how you will feel and what you will say. Ask yourself: Do I want to get caught up in another self fulfilling prophecy where I will most likely never learn from my mistakes, or learn how I could improve myself?

If you want to change this pattern - recognise firstly that the fact that you are reacting by attempting to abdicate your responsibility immediately indicates to you that there is some point within yourself that this experience has revealed that you, for whatever reason, want to avoid / not take responsibility for. This can be caused by any number of things including self definition, limiting self beliefs, shame, not wanting to admit your mistake or wrongdoing, etc etc. Identify what you're trying to avoid - this will bring you to the gift within this experience. Once you see what you need to take responsibility for - own it. Find a way to learn from it, apply it to potential future events, get to know yourself better - these are all possible gifts that you can give to yourself by facing yourself within your experiences of the word responsibility.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Day 873: Creation

It seems to be human nature to wait for things to happen. There really are only a few people who go all out to make things happen in their life. In reality, even when we do not actively do anything to create the life we want, we are still creating our lives.

So often will people sit back and wonder how the hell they got here, how they are not as close to their friends as they used to be, why they feel alienated, how they got to being so far from where they once were or from where they wanted to go. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice, equal to choosing to do something. We create our experiences and relationships, people cannot impose any of this on us.

For example: you one day look at the people in your life and feel like you don't have a connection with them anymore, like there is this distance between you unlike any physical distance. You wonder how the hell you got here since you used to be so close, but now you just don't know how to spend time together and feel that connection again. If you look into your memories you will probably see that yes, the relationship probably changed slowly as time went by. Relationships change as we change. In order to maintain a relationship effectively, you must CREATE the relationship you want - you must be active, participate, put yourself out there, make an effort - otherwise all that will happen is that the relationship will slowly wither away into a pale reflection of what it once was.

Daydreaming about all the things you want to do will not bring those things into manifestation. We often satiate ourselves with thinking about all the wonderful things we'd love to do, yet when it comes to actually creating any of those things chances are that those intentions will fizzle away into nothing - and nothing is exactly what will happen.

Possibly the most interesting thing about how most people live now is that after something happens, we say that we have no idea how that happened and yet if we had been aware of our words, thoughts and actions in moments leading up to that event we would have seen many small moments of creation. We create all of our experiences and yet seem oblivious to the fact most of the time.

Every action has an equal reaction. Every cause has an effect. It matters not if the action was done in ignorance - that does not negate the consequences of the action. When you look at it this way it seems so illogical to not bother about being aware, to be so caught up in your internal to's and fro's that you don't realise the effects that your actions will have. So whether you are aware of it or not, you really are creating exactly what you will be living in the future, the real question is whether you will realise your responsibility and stand as the directive principle within your creation, or blame the world for apparently having made you experience whatever you're experiencing now.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Day 872: What do You Look Forward to?

These days most of us live with a degree of uncertainty. We are uncertain of our future. We do not always know where we stand. We are uncertain of our survival, never mind the possibility of thriving. Everything we have can be taken away by any number of unpredictable and unpleasant events. The possibility of death exists everywhere and at all times.

There are many people who live with the knowledge that not even their livelihood is certain. There are many jobs that simply do not provide long term security and there are many also that fail and can no longer provide employment. This is a fact that everyone lives with - because not only can these things affect us personally, but when one person loses their income then they are no longer able to financially support all of those individuals and businesses that they supported when they had that income.

Every time one person is disempowered it has a ripple effect out into their community, which then ripples out into the larger community - it may have a much smaller effect, but eventually all of those tiny effects add up...

No one should have to live with the knowledge that tomorrow they may not be able to buy food, pay their bills or support their family - and yet it seems like majority of people live with this fear. We all complain that the system is broken, yet WE MADE IT THIS WAY and continue to support it. If we do not ask questions of why the hell we're still living this way then the reality is that this is simply how we will continue to exist - from paycheck to paycheck, never 100% sure that you'll get your paycheck next month.

We are all at each other's mercy. We are all begging each other to continue allowing us to survive. "Please buy this so that I may feed my family", "please hire me so that I may have a roof over my head". Is it a lack of compassion and empathy that has brought us to this point? Do we simply not care for each other enough to be able to freely give the peace of mind that no matter what, your survival is guaranteed - survival including healthy food, safe and comfortable home, comprehensive healthcare, clean water, education... Is that not what you would like to be guaranteed in your life and in the lives of your children?

We already know the destination of this path we are on, yet knowing that is not enough to change, not everyone at least. Maybe if we see the possibilities that emerge from changing, maybe that will finally give humanity enough motivation to actually do something to create the best possible future.

I look forward toward a world in which no one ever has to fear not having enough. I look forward toward a world where all animals are cared for and respected, even if that means allowing them space to live their lives free of human interruptions. I look forward toward a world in which no one need fear for the safety of their children. I look forward toward a world where everyone knows exactly how to design and create who they want to be, what they want to experience and the life they want to create. I look forward toward a world where there is no spite, pettiness, hatred, blame or jealousy. I look forward toward a world in which all of the children are given the opportunity to develop themselves into their utmost potential. I look forward toward Heaven on Earth. What do you look forward to?

Monday, October 12, 2015

Day 871: Creepy Uncle Corruption

What is corruption? It's a term that we use quite frequently in our lives, and yet seldom do we take in the full weight of what corruption actually is, how the human mind functions when someone chooses to act in such a way that could be described as 'corrupt'.

Corruption is the willing, or rather, deliberate choosing of personal gain over the greater good. It is when someone knowingly does something contrary to the rules, guidelines and principles in place in order to enrich themselves on a personal level. Corruption has a real cost, it has a measurable impact on many lives - the impact is felt but it is rather difficult to measure how much corruption exists simply because it takes place in secret, so you never really know who is corrupt and to what degree.

It is often the people least able to defend or protect themselves who are impacted the most by the selfish actions of those who are more powerful. Leaders of countries deny their citizens adequate housing, financial aid, health care, education and infrastructure (to name but a few) so that they may live in opulence. People who are in positions where they must make choices sometimes choose to make the choice that benefits them personally rather than benefiting the community. These choices remove the potential good that can be created and only serve to further impoverish and diminish our communities.

What is possibly the worst thing about corruption is that is is so readily accepted by all of us. It's simple "one of those things we can never change" - and because that is what we believe, that is obviously what we create and reinforce. Only a few handful of people become angry enough to actually try to do something to stop corruption - and this simply isn't enough to make a large scale difference. Sure, there are news stories and articles now and then - but how often do they inspire real action to be taken to investigate and solve the root problem?

Corruption is choosing "I" over "we". So how do we change the mindset of so many people? How do we inspire the people who live only for themselves to start truly caring about the people and planet around them? Threats do not work - we seem to live under a constant threat of doom and destruction - it simply is not an effective motivator - if it was then we would have changed how we live by now.

No, people have to want to change enough to actually live that change. You can want something a little bit but never actually do anything about it, but if you really want something, like hard, then you're going to do everything in your ability and power to get it. There is actually a meme that depicts this dilemma quite well: If people are willing to camp outside stores for days for the next iPhone, then its not a matter of ability when considering why things don't change - it is rather a matter of desire and will.

There comes a point where desire is irrelevant and it is simply our self will that moves us forward - but it takes time to get to that point and realistically, the majority of humanity is simply not capable of living with that level of selfless consideration and discipline. Unfortunately, these things don't simply fall out of the sky and into people - they are skills and abilities that each person is responsible for developing within themselves.

Every time you choose to look away, or choose to simply accept the world as it is - you are choosing to support the world. Yes, change will not be easy. Yes, we will probably need to make personal sacrifices, especially when we are 'going against the grain' of what is accepted and allowed. The more people who start to want change enough to actually do something to try and create it, the more likely the change becomes.

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Day 870: Its what God would want Me to do

How strange is it that people will justify their good actions by saying that they did what God would have wanted them to do? why can everyone not simply act according to the common sense of what is "good" and what is "bad"? Often people who do "bad" things don't do them because they don't realise that they're being dicks, they do those things knowing full well what the better alternatives are.

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Friday, October 9, 2015

Day 869: Venomous Thoughts

Why do people sometimes change so completely that you can no longer recognise them? Every now and then you watch someone you know turn into a bitter and nasty person, no longer interested in the well being of others (whether it's just you or everyone around them). Their thoughts become venomous and their words harsh and unforgiving.

When we do not direct our small moments of backchat, the thoughts we have (often about other people) that generate energy within us, that energy builds up over time. As the energy builds, so do the thoughts become more nasty and extreme. Someone who was mildly irritating before eventually becomes enemy number one to you and the entire human race. Your perception becomes clouded by the energy and thoughts. There are no longer quiet moments of investigation, there are only fiery moments of hateful and spiteful thoughts. You can't see straight. Your entire body vibrates with the anger and hate you feel. Every thought you have and thing you see simply becomes further evidence proving how you are right and they are wrong or bad. You don't even know why you feel this way. When someone asks you why you don't like that person, all you can come up with are vague and sometimes irrational reasons. At this stage the reasons don't matter anyway - you hate them completely - that's all that matters.

This is a rather extreme example. We often face this experience, though rarely with such extremity. The funny thing is that very often all of this - all of it - is based on judgements. We allow a few nasty thoughts to creep in - sometimes they're not nasty at all, but they are based on our perception - so we start judging and don't investigate what's going on. We so rarely take the time or make the effort to communicate with someone after we have those little thoughts creeping in. We brush the thoughts aside - which is just the opening our minds need to take those small thoughts and turn them into a conglomeration of spite and hate. Our interactions with the person(s) central to this experience become brusque, short, uncomfortable, aggressive. We no longer want to support this person(s), we instead start pointing out how they are doing everything wrong - though we never offer and support or solutions.

The solution is twofold:
  1. The energy that has built up within you needs to be cleared - the moment you allow yourself to participate in the thoughts that generate this energy is the moment that you are allowing yourself to become poisonous - to yourself and others. The moment you see any of the thoughts related to this experience moving within you, stop immediately. You will probably have to do this many times! It will not simply go away after stopping the thoughts once. The thoughts are often all about "them" and "they" ("God, this is all their fault, they are so stupid!"), they are often problem oriented rather than solution oriented ("They are still doing that, they are never going to learn, idiot"), they are often centered around making the person(s) "wrong" ("They are doing it all wrong, they should be doing it this way. I would do it so much better"). If you are reacting to someone it is not indicating that there is a problem with them, it is ALWAYS indicating that there is a problem within YOU. I mean it - ALWAYS! YOU are responsible for your reactions - no one can make you feel anything. The moment you blame another for your experience is the moment you abdicate your self responsibility.
  2. Talk to the person(s)! Stop making assumptions! You don't know what's going on in all of the dimensions involved. There is probably a whole lot you are not seeing or considering. Even if the person(s) is making / has made a mistake, judging them for it is not going to support them - it's far more likely to do a great deal of damage. Change your focus to support: "How can I help you?"; "I can see you've been struggling with doing this, what exactly are you having difficulty with? Maybe I can give you a hand.".

Thursday, October 8, 2015

Day 868: Why Won't You Just Do What I Want!?!

We are not all that patient, not with ourselves or the beings around us. We easily become frustrated, irritated and even angry when things don't move the way we want them to. Obviously taking our frustrations out on those around us is not an effective way of getting things done faster - it's actually more likely to make things move slower.

We do not readily pause to consider what it is we expect from the beings around us. We often impose our personal experiences, expectations and comparisons on others without fully considering whether they are capable of living up to our expectations. The reality is that everyone is different, and without the ability to read minds there is no way you can know what someone else is going through. It may be your intention to help, but if you expect everyone and everything around you to immediately understand and agree with you then you will be sorely disappointed.

The step we often miss is finding out exactly where another being is at - not everyone communicates on the same "level" - some people will understand a certain vocabulary better than others, other people may learn and understand more effectively with visual aides. There really is no "one size fits all" with communication - and here I am including people and animals. Animals are often the most misunderstood and the most abused at the hands of our ineffectual communication skills.

Animals do not have the capacity to speak as we do - they can't tell us "it hurts when I do this" or "what the hell are you going on about, I have no idea what you want from me". The more familiar you are with animal body language the more you are able to see what they're trying to communicate, but there really are very few people who really take the time to listen to what animals have to say. They are often called the animal "whisperers" - but all they have done is taken the time to ask questions and be open to receiving any answer.

So, if you find yourself bubbling in a silent rage when people/things aren't doing what you want them to, pause for a moment, take a few deep, slow breaths and evaluate your situation. Look at what you are dealing with: have you been communicating clearly? Have you tried different approaches? Have you asked questions? Have you answered any questions fully? Have you been calm and stable within yourself (often if you are reacting you impede on others' ability to process information and act effectively)? Is what you are asking considering the entirety of the people/things you are dealing with? Is what you are asking reasonable? Is what you are asking possible? Are the people / things actually able to do what you are asking them? Do they understand you?

If the people/things you are working with don't understand what exactly it is you want then you cannot blame them for not doing it the way you wanted. It is always your responsibility to make sure that your communication has been clear and effective - meaning that everyone understands you 100%.

When you are working with people, you can check if your communication was effective by asking them to repeat back to you and possibly show you what it is they understood you were asking them to do. Animals can be a little tricky, but generally you will know if they understand you simply by their response (behaviour) to your asking. The interesting thing about animals is that they are almost always willing to forgive humans and try their best, no matter what has been done to them. It's up to us to honour their willingness by communicating in a fair and effective way. It's also up to us to do our best to support animals to heal from the cruelty humanity shows them.

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Day 867: The Ignorance of Solitary Confinement

What does one hope to achieve when locking another human being (or any living being) into a box? The belief that some kind of good or learning will come from it is ignorant, to say the least. People learn and change and grow through interaction and investigation (with the support of others) - not from being deprived of sensory, social and mental stimuli.

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Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Day 866: Relationship Success Support: Gender roles Vs. Masculine and Feminine Expression

Another great hangout!

How are we influenced by gender-based programming that tends to limit and cause conflict in our relationships? How can we constructively utilize the differences between males and females, masculine and feminine as a point of support rather than a source of conflict and dissonance? How can you support your partner within understanding where they are coming from as either male or female? How can we learn from each other and use the differences between us to learn and grow?

Sunday, October 4, 2015

Day 865: Stuck in Survival Mode

These days it's a common experience to have to adjust to living with less income, or not enough income to maintain comfortable living standards. There is a common response that is triggered within these experiences that contributes to us keeping ourselves stuck there. What is this self sabotage and what is the solution to move to self creation?

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Day 864: A Prisoner of Your Thoughts

We all know what it feels like to hold onto anger, resentment, disappointment and so on, towards ourselves and others. How do you keep yourself and other people prisoner in your thoughts?

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Saturday, October 3, 2015

Day 863: Just Do It

There are few people in the world who are lucky enough to learn what it means to live the word discipline. Most of us tend to wait for good things to happen, or don't know how to follow through on commitments, or don't know how to live with consistency. The secret is that discipline is not something that happens to you, you aren't born with it - it is a skill that you must develop within yourself and your life.

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Friday, October 2, 2015

Day 862: Escapism vs Expression

Do you use your free time to escape your life or build on it?

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Thursday, October 1, 2015

Day 861: Imposing Your Will on the World

We often live with the mentality that "it's my way or the highway" - but that's really not an effective way to establish relationships with anything in this world. Pause for a moment and assess who and what you are dealing with - not everyone automatically understands you all the time and not everyone is able to do all of the things you do the same way you do it.

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