Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Day 1162: I Hate Driving

Even though I've had my driver's license for almost 10 years, I still don't feel comfortable driving. At some point I allowed my experiences of stress and anxiety to determine my actions and I stopped driving. I don't want to carry on feeling this disempowerment towards driving - I want to be able to drive comfortably. So, there's only one thing I can do about that: practice, practice, practice.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Day 1161: When I Lost Myself

In one of my previous relationships I lost myself for a moment. I suppressed myself out of fear of conflict and fear of losing the relationship. It was a difficult lesson, but I learned a lot about myself and about relationships.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

Day 1159: Living Realizations

We don't always follow through with living the change we see is necessary following a realization - often we will slowly forget the realization and just keep on keeping on. Is that a real realization?

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Day 1157: Backwards Day

When I was a child, my dad Bernard Poolman was always thinking of different ways to think "outside the box" for us kids. We did things like Backwards Day where we did everything backwards, like chocolate for breakfast.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Day 1156: Slaughter by Moonlight

Yesterday I read a newspaper headline that told of a group of rhinos that had been slaughtered in the moonlight. Why do these things happen? Money. We are all fighting for survival or fighting for greed because of who we are in relation to money.

Monday, August 22, 2016

Day 1155: Posture and Patterns

Something I've noticed is how changing my posture is very similar to changing a deeply ingrained behavioural, response or thought pattern.

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Day 1154: Because I Said So

We all know what it feels like to want to be in control of something or someone. We feel like there's no time to explain ourselves to someone, or that they probably don't have the capacity to understand us. Funnily enough, we continue to try to control even when we can see that the consequences are less than ideal. There is a better way to direct and support each other - it just takes a little patience and effort to change our behavior.

Saturday, August 20, 2016

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Day 1152: The Meaning in Speaking

Just because someone is speaking doesn't mean that they are saying anything of meaning or worth. Salespeople especially are good at "talking you into things" by using trigger words and terms that make people feel a certain way, or create doubt and uncertainty within people. We have the response-ability to change how we respond within ourselves to these sales techniques.

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Day 1151: Not Good Enough

I often feel like there simply isn't enough time in a day to do all the things I need to do. Beneath that experience is a frustration and an expectation that I should be doing better. What's the solution? Do what I can, when I can, as best as I can.

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Day 1150: The Challenges of Communication

It is so easy to react to someone when you are talking. It is so easy to tell yourself why they would say or do something that made you feel this way. It is easy to hold onto your judgement of them. It is challenging to change your moment of reaction into a moment of opportunity for you to take responsibility for yourself and develop your ability and skill to understand and communicate with another person.

Monday, August 15, 2016

Day 1149: Video Challenge: Through the Looking Glass

When you look into another person's life, you seldom witness the entire truth of their lives. We get so caught up in trying to create appearances of our lives and compare them to the appearances of other people's lives that we're actually missing out on living here and now! We're missing out on learning about ourselves and developing honest and real relationships.

Sunday, August 14, 2016

Day 1148: Video Challenge: Practicing Communication

Communication is challenging for us for a number of reasons, but most commonly because we don't take the time to truly openly discuss how we understand each other. We make assumptions, we misinterpret, we misunderstand - but seldom will we open up a discussion with the goal of clarifying our communications. It takes practice to drop our emotional reactions to each other and make the effort to develop a clear and mutual understanding.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Day 1145: Video Challenge Day 26: Better Safe than Sorry

Prevention is the best cure, but we often ignore that little voice inside us that tells us to be prepared. I may appear cautious, but I would rather be safe than sorry.

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Day 1144: Video Challenge Day 25: Beating Around the Bush

We don't often meet people we can easily and completely be honest with in the current world system, often being honest leads to conflicts and arguments. But there are those moments when the only thing holding us back are our own insecurities and fears about how the other person may react. If you can support then it becomes your responsibility to do so, so learn how to feel your fears in communication.

Monday, August 8, 2016

Day 1143: Video Challenge Day 24: A High Price to Pay

The first thing that most people will think about when facing an unexpected cost, like having to go to the doctor, is money. Our relationship to money determines how we will respond to those unexpected moments - if we have an emotional relationship to money then our response will be emotional. We seldom realize just how much our relationship with money can change the way we make choices.

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Day 1142: Video Challenge Day 23: Be a Good Customer

How often do you think about how marketing actually works? I guarantee that if you do, and if you look into the psychological strategies that are used, you'll question every lifestyle choice you've made. Imagine if that much effort was being put into promoting change!

Saturday, August 6, 2016

Day 1141: Video Challenge Day 22: Mind Bad, Stop Mind!

For many people who start walking the Desteni process, there is often a phase in the beginning of their process where they try to completely stop all thoughts, emotions and feelings. Let me tell you why that is unnecessary.

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Day 1140: Video Challenge Day 21: J-j-j-judgement

Judgements are difficult to let go of. We feel so right when we think about them, to the degree that often we believe that they are right. Here I share how I use a challenging relationship in my life to show me where I am still allowing judgment.

Wednesday, August 3, 2016

Day 1139: Video Challenge Day 20: Election Madness

One of the hot topics going around at the moment is elections. USA has been flailing around in the mud with their election bonanza and today South Africa held municipal elections. Isn't it funny how little politicians can say even when using many words?

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Day 1138: Video Challenge Day 19: Why Won't my Day just go to Plan

Every now and then I have a day that presents one unexpected obstacle after another and I just can't seem to get to anything that I planned to do. My initial response today was frustration, but after reminding myself to stop being a control freak I chose instead to practice flexibility.

Monday, August 1, 2016

Day 1137: Video Challenge Day 18: The Camera makes you Self Centered!

Today I had an interesting experience when playing around with different ideas for music video settings. I felt uncomfortable in front of the camera, as if being there was somehow a selfish thing to do. I actually saw how easy it could be to sabotage myself by convincing myself that I shouldn't make a good video if I'm going to be in it. Lol