Day 1101: Releasing the Control Freak Within: You don't have to do Everything Yourself

Some of us feel like we need to do everything ourselves, that other people are just not up to the task and that if you want something done right, do it yourself. Sometimes we convince ourselves that with every single project or responsibility in our lives, if we don't do it then no one will. Living this way is not only stressful and often overwhelming, it is also simply not effective or practical. It also prevents other people from developing themselves within roles of responsibility and initiative. Sometimes, you just have to step back, give someone else the opportunity to take responsibility within a role and then support them to become effective within it.

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  1. Took me a long time to learn this lesson when I was a boss and unfortunately let it get to the point of overwhelming me before I asked for help. But, once I did, I learned that a lot of people will step up to the plate and take on more responsibility and learn new tasks, more so by asking for their help, than by delegating a new responsibility to them. The next step requires patience with self. I took a while to get used to taking that step back and giving up control, then supporting them as needed.


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